Relationships & Money: What does being in a ‘Vat en Sit’ mean for your finances?
Johannesburg - According to the most recent Marriages and Divorces report released by Stats SA, fewer South Africans are tying the knot – a possible indicator of the cultural move away from the traditional institution of marriage in favour of domestic partnerships. In the case of the latter, couples enter into cohabitation agreements where living costs are often shared. These partnerships are referred to as 'Vat en Sit' arrangements (loosely translated as "take and sit down" in Afrikaans), and although they are a growing phenomenon, they are not recognised as legal marriages by South African law.
Given the nature of Vat en Sit relationships, cohabiting couples often share living expenses such as rent, groceries, petrol; and in some cases, the expense of raising a child. Part of the shared financial responsibility often also includes the managing and paying off of debt. Where this is the case, when one party in a Vat en Sit relationship is unable to optimise their credit usage and practice responsible debt repayment practices, their partner may be drawn into a vicious cycle of over-indebtedness.
According to National Debt Advisors (NDA) CEO, Charnel Collins, in lieu of the protection of the law that regulates civil marriages, it is very important for couples in a domestic partnership to have open conversations around personal financial management and what it means in the context of the relationship.
As she elaborates: "couples may be of the opinion that entering into a cohabitation agreement instead of a formal marriage is a way of side-stepping the complexities of marriage, while reaping the benefit of being in a committed relationship. Where finances are concerned, cohabiting may also seem like the most practical option given the turbulence of the current economic climate.
However, without a formal cohabitation agreement, individuals in a Vat en Sit relationship run the risk of facing a number of financial snags including the joint management of assets and liabilities and how retirement income is saved and distributed when the time comes."
It is not uncommon for couples living together to take out joint loans and enter into financing arrangements to pay for items that are considered as equally belonging to both parties. Legally, while cohabitees are only liable for debts that have been accrued under their individual names, joint credit agreements will mean that each partner will be 50% responsible for debt that is accumulated as a couple; both during and after the relationship (should it come to an end).
Providing her perspective on how this has played out over the past few years, Collin says that "7.54% of our client base are individuals who are overindebted and under debt review due to being married in community of property to another overindebted person. This number is alarmingly high when compared to the number of clients who are overindebted and apply for debt review as individuals rather than as a partner in a relationship/civil union."
The impact that financial stress can have on romantic partnerships has been well-documented. And while having conversations around money may be uncomfortable and difficult to initiate, they are necessary.
Elaborating on the steps involved with securing one's financial health when entering into a domestic partnership, Collins says that understanding how both parties in the relationship approach and deal with the concept of debt, is an important starting point.
This is particularly true in Vat en Sit relationships, Collins asserts, where drafting a cohabitation agreement which details how financial responsibilities will be met and managed as a couple, is a crucial part of protecting one's financial wellbeing.
Cohabitation Agreement
Among other things, a cohabitation agreement should outline the financial position of each individual in the relationship, including any assets they may have, as well as any debt in the form of credit cards, retail store accounts or personal loans. The agreement should stipulate how these debts will be paid off in regard to individual debt and any joint debt. It should also provide a description of the process that will be initiated should the relationship come to an end, in terms of settling any jointly accumulated debt and dividing any assets owned by the couple.
Financial Cohesion
As Collins suggests, fostering a sense of financial cohesion will go a long way in building a relationship grounded in a sense of mutual responsibility, respect and cooperation. These are three of the steps she believes are vital in reaching such an agreement:
- Communication: It is important for partners to be honest and transparent about their current financial situation and long-term goals. Being honest about money matters will build trust and nurture a sense of security. Communication about one's financial needs, stressors, challenges and plans is vital in a Vat en Sit relationship where the cost of living is shared.
- Joint budgeting and financial goal setting: Many cohabiting couples have found it useful to draw up a budget or plan outlining any joint income and expenses. Having a budget in place will allow couples to track their spend, weigh up whether debt is being managed effectively and whether a healthy debt-income ratio is being maintained.
- Watch out for these warning signs: Over-indebtedness doesn't happen overnight, Collins encourages couples to be on the lookout for the below warning signs before committing to a Vat en Sit relationship:
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- Living salary-to-salary and struggling to make ends meet.
- Constantly needing to borrow money (from lending institutions or family and friends)
- Dishonesty about how much they earn
- Avoiding phone calls from debt collectors.
''There is no denying that cohabiting can ease the financial burden on individuals. But; like in any other relationship, it is all too easy to find yourself heavily indebted due to a partner's dishonesty or bad financial habits. There is a strong case to be made for tackling financial matters upfront and ensuring that each party's goals are aligned before committing to a Vat en Sit relationship," she concludes.
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